Are People in Your Life Stealing Your happiness and Success?

Today I want to have a conversation with you to get you thinking about the people in your life and how they affect your attitude.

Have you ever stopped to really look at the people you are around the most?

It has been said that we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with.

I heard this a long time ago but never really stopped to think about it. That is until about 5 years ago. I was in a tough spot at the time and was starting over with nothing at an age that many people are looking at retiring.

I had lost everything and had it not been for a friend of mine, I don’t know where I would be today.

This is when it hit me that I was a dumping ground for all the negativity and pain and sorrow of most of the people I associated with on a personal level.

I had a good heart and was always willing to lend an ear and listen to my friends when they were down.

What I didn’t realize was how that was impacting my own happiness.

I was unknowingly absorbing all the negativity and unhappiness of the people I spent the most time with in my life.

What was worse than that was that I was then passing that negativity and unhappiness on to the people I love the most, my children.

Now I don’t want you to ever think you are immune to negativity and misery. We are like a sponge and over time we become the people we are around. This is a natural survival instinct that we all have. It happens without us even realizing it’s happened.

If you live with thieves and gangsters, over time you will become like them. This is the way we adapt and change in order to survive. This may be an extreme example but it is appropriate if it gets the message across.

It’s unavoidable!

You may be asking…what can I do about this?

If you are asking that question, you have just taken the first step to correcting the problem.

You see we have become a society of enablers. We don’t hold others or ourselves responsible for the actions we take or the thoughts we internalize. We say oh it’s not their fault or we say it’s just the way they are. Then we allow them to continue to poison us with their negativity and unhappiness.

What is the answer?

It’s really quite simple. In fact it’s so simple that most people will read this and pass it off as too simple an answer to such a complex question.

The real answer is that we must start with our own awareness.

We must be aware of the information and opinions that we take in and the possible impact that data can have on our own lives.

This awareness is where all positive change begins. This is not a new concept if you’ve been reading my emails for any amount of time.

With awareness, we can look at the kind of messages we are receiving. We can look objectively at the data we are allowing to be stored in our subconscious minds.

Since the subconscious is nothing more than a storage bin for every thought, experience and idea you’ve ever been exposed to, can you see how you must filter the information you allow to be stored in the subconscious?

Your subconscious mind has no filter in place to block out the bad and allow in only the data that will best serve you in your life. The subconscious only stores that data even if it is bad for you or is not true.

The only filter you have is the conscious mind.

You must look at what you expose yourself to. If you have friends or family, that are constantly trying to steal your dreams, you must minimize your exposure to these people.

If you watch the news on TV, you have to really ask yourself if the information you are receiving is going to help you achieve the life you want. You have to look at the media that you expose yourself to and become your own filter for the subconscious mind.

Remember that everything is energy at its most basic level.

Energy doesn’t stand still, it’s always moving. So if you are exposing yourself to negative energy all the time, that energy is preventing you from achieving the things you want for your life.

In addition, that energy is affection your relationships with the people you love the most.

As I’ve already told you, I know this to be true as I’ve seen it in my own life and how it affected my children. The negative energy I was internalizing was poisoning me. It was poisoning my relationships with my true friends and family that loved me.

So now my question for you is this….

What will you do? Will you stop and begin to look at the information and energy you expose yourself to throughout your day? Will you begin to see the negativity in your life and start cutting the ties to the sources of that negativity?

Or, will you pass this off because it’s just too simple to actually be a solution?

I hope you will stop to look at the conversations and media you expose yourself to. I hope you will see the negativity and manipulation for what it is. I hope you will consciously decide to cut the ties to things that no longer serve you.

I know this sounds harsh and it is.

You may know people like this and you are wondering, yes but how can I just cut them off. Well you don’t really have to. You just have to be aware and then start limiting your exposure. Over time as you grow, they will begin to cut themselves off from you.

You will no longer be a dumping ground for their garbage and so they won’t want much to do with you.

This is the hard truth.

I only share this with you from love and my desire to help you help yourself and start taking your life to a higher level. I have been on both sides of this fence and the grass really is greener on the positive, stress free and happy side.

To your success and happiness,

Dale

 

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